Tag: validation

I tend towards peace

I tend towards peace…. I always tend towards peace. Tension aggression, shouting, swearing, loud voices, accusations, ranting, always immediately cause me to shut my gates.  Ok so I have told you all before, I grew up with a lot of that… Not the swearing though, but raised voices, accusations, arguments, verbal tirades, they could go on for hours and hours. You may not have been the one on centre stage taking the floor and being pulled to pieces but once it started everyone got a chance.   I shudder to think about those many many many times now, and actually I only remember them as a whole the details are very much a blur and I’m more than happy for them to stay that way. I wonder if I was the person I am now what would I have done back then but that would never have been possible.  …

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A sore spot…

A sore spot… The journey of ‘unfolding revelation’ in my life continues… From time to time patterns show themselves in my thoughts, words, actions and FEELINGS and when I realise this I need to have a little bit more of a peek and ask God about it too. Something that’s been coming to light for me is about validation and affirmation. What do those two words mean to you? Do you care? Do you need affirmation or validation or is it no skin off your back? In a healthy family there will be balance between affirmation and truth and love and all the rest. By realising this I can see where the lack of affirmation and validation in my childhood left an empty space. I think everyone needs these two things in their lives. I think we are meant to receive them in our families. But as we all know with…

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