Today was Fathers Day in Australia.
Life doesn’t always end up like it does in the movies, and this is the truth for A LOT of families, more than we will ever know. And for this reason Mothers and Fathers Day celebrations are sweet and bitter…. Truth be told they have always been bittersweet to me. Clear memories of high expectations, fear of upsetting someone and tensions come to mind for me…. and so much more…
For the ones that have been hurt by their parents, not had a father in their life, or known who he was, or a mother that has done so much damage, whether purposefully or because she really didn’t know any better because of her own life, then the ones that have been rejected, abandoned, mistreated, neglected…. my heart goes out.
Interestingly because of this I kind of dislike reading all the loving messages on these days… partly because it reminds me of the dread of those stressful occasions through my own life and then I think of the pain of people who are not so fortunate as some and that on days like today there is no where for them go. If they acknowledge the day they acknowledge the pain. If they ignore the day, then the sight of everyone else’s celebrations only rubs it in or else the feeling of being alone must touch them.
So many people’s hopes and expectations hang on these days. I think that every day should be a day to love our family and loved ones and not on these commercialized occasions. I think from now on we should choose to make our own day based on love.
I am so thankful for my Dad, (my step dad by way of explanation). I don’t believe I have EVER felt that I was anything other than his daughter. He married my mum after my dad had died a few years prior. He took on 2 small children, in my brother and I, and he must have been good to us because even though I don’t remember much at all, I remember my brother and I talking, at the ages of probably 5 and under, and deciding we would stop calling him Uncle Norm and call him Dad… No one prompted us to do this. It wasn’t an easy childhood for us but he did the best he could for us.
If today was a hard day for you my heart truly goes out to you. Knowing that I have a heavenly parent always comforts me as He will never do any of the things that us earthly parents can do, His love toward us is perfect and unchanging. He will never leave us nor forsake us. No matter what. He loves us more than any human ever could ♥